hyperactive 3yr old.

[RachieS1986]

Hi hoping someone can give me some coping strategies.

Ds1 is 3. Over the last while he has become increasingly hyper and disobedient. tge last few days have been awful. he constantly hits (mostly me) shouting screaming throwing toys. doing things he shouldn't be poking and hoking in things. constant tantrums when he doesn't get his own way. Rough play.

when he's asked to stop it either has no affect whatsoever or for a very short time.

I was very hyperactive as a child and one of the ways my mum managed me was getting down to my level and holding eye contact whilst speaking/explaining to me. iv tried this with ds but most times he looks past me or continues giddying about or closes his eyes. an odd time he will look at me.

its getting to the stage where I hate taking him anywhere because he gets to rough and giddy amd won't listen when I ask him to stop or calm down.

we have a small family birthday party coming up and to be honest im dreading it.

dm has mentioned adhd but im reluctant to go to the gp as some days I think hes just a normal little boy and the gp will think im being a hypochondriac.

has anyone any tips on how to calm him down.

[Artandco]

Can you start the day with exercise? When he wakes up, get him dressed and out the house for 30 mins on scooter, skipping, on a bike, running, walking to find leaves etc. Then by the time you come back home for breakfast and to start day he will already have burnt some energy off.

[BabyMum1]

There was a similar thread 3 days ago.. I proposed to the OP to stop gluten/casein for a few days and see how it goes .. I had the same with ds1 and he's totally calm now
Good luck x

[RachieS1986]

Art - I couldn't take him out before breakfast but could certainly do between breakfast and lunch.

Baby - thanks I'll have a look for that thread. ds is a very fussy eater though as it is. Dm says my hyperactiveness was mainly dietry. I couldn't have anything with e numbers she even had to bake my own bread.

[RachieS1986]

Baby - I had a quick glance at that thread and the mention of the child's hearing stood out as something that has been bothering me about ds1. he hates anyone cleaning his ears and they arw usually pretty waxy. he will have a complete hysterical meltdown. he said one night that his ears do hurt and he has been prone to aore throats/tonsils.

[RachieS1986]

forgot to add that at his 2 year review (which was only done 2 months before his 3rd birthday) the hv mentioned she would keep an eye on his speech as it isnt clear but she was putting it down to the fact that he sucks his thumb.

[Fugghetaboutit]

Does he go to nursery?

[BabyMum1]

Rachie so that you know we do give gluten once a day but I give a vegan enzyme that breaks it down - honestly the change in him was shocking . I do give him probiotics and omega 3 as well though

Could you check his hearing at all?

[RachieS1986]

Iv been thinking about taking him to the gp to get his hearing checked but was afraid they would think I was being silly. he should have got his preschool injections by now so will have to phone them to chase that so will organise the whole lot together.

he was with a childminder until Christmas but has been home with me since I went on maternity. he is due to start preschool in september. I know he is lost for company but he has had quite a few playdatea with his cousin who is also 3.

[BabyMum1]

Don't let them fob you off... Demand the hearing check, tell them there r times he doesn't respond... Problem is you might wait a few months

[RachieS1986]

I will do. Our drs are usually quite good I just had a bad experience with a male locum dr with ds2 and his lack of sleeping.

I'm hoping once he starts preschool they may also be able to help and highlight if there are any problems.

[NessaWH123]

The thread you read was me :) I'm sorting out my sons glue ear to see if that helps and looking into gluten to see if that makes any difference as my son is 2 and half and very similar to yours. He goes to a childminders still but is always the scape goat as he is so hyper loud and boisterous. I also worry about things like ADHD and will follow that up if the glue ear help and gluten don't help. Hope u get somewhere soon . my son has similar tantrums and behaviours so just to know your not alone . I find him the wildest in new places he hasn't been or if he has an audience!!