Will try to keep this concise!, just want some advice really on anyone who maybe has a few problem areas with their inlaws. I really do like my inlaws etc and there was no issues before our baby was born, however since born they seem to constantly need an update , see the baby every weekend (complain if we say no to them when I was sick or we have plans that weekend and they can't really visit etc which has only been twice in 12 weeks!) they live A couple of hours drive away whereas my family live close and see the baby regularly (they don't know just how regularly as I don't want them to feel like they are missing out but my mum sees the baby everyday even if just for 5 mins!) I had an awful birth and was very ill for about 7 weeks after it and have just found it allo be very intense when I was trying to recover so I don't know if it just really upset me then and I am still upset from that or It's ok to feel like this. My husband has been so supportive and really has tried his best to keep them happy without offending but nothing just seems to be enough. Like even when they visit it doesn't seem to be enough they then want to watch her on their own, they have been saying for weeks about us leaving the baby with them and us going out for a couple of hours ( I am ebf so use that as my main excuse) but I just don't feel ready to leave the baby with them as although they have had a few of their own children they just seem to have forgotten how to look after a baby and I don't feel confident having them watch her without me being there as they seem to panic when she cries etc! can just imagine them discussing that I'm overprotective and like hormonal or something anyone any suggestions? Spoke to husband about it and he doesn't think telling them how I feel will work as says it will likely open a can of worms and will hurt their feelings, better to just deal with things as they arise. I do mostly agree with him on this as its nearly been left too long and will hurt their feelings but at the same time doesn't really resolve the issue! I understand they are just both excited grandparents for the first time and want to see her as much as possible I'm just finding it difficult to balance everything
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