I would be really interested in opinions from mumsnet as I've heard this from a couple of different sources and am starting to doubt myself.
I have one DS, he's just turned 3. My DH and I have had slightly different ideas about parenting from the off - he's quite hands-off, just lets him get on with it, sort of thing, I am very playful and happy to be reading, cuddling, down on the floor making toys do voices etc.
I think I am like this partly because my parents have both had a lot of illness and I have a sense that life is short and I don't want to regret not playing with DS, if you know what I mean - if I'm cleaning for example and he's saying 'come and play' I always do because to me that feels more important. I have a sort of paranoia that I might inherit illnesses from my family and not be around forever and I want all our time to count, if you know what I mean. I'm mentioning this because it explains why I am the way I am with him.
Anyway both my DH and a couple of close friends have mentioned comments along the lines that DS is not very independent/ seems too attached to me. I am questioning whether I have 'babied' him too much I suppose. He's a lovely boy and, yes, he is very mummy-centric (in soft play, for example, he'll want to play with me even if his friends are there - is that normal?) but he does go to nursery fairly happily and spend time with my parents without pining for me. It's just that if he has a choice his first choice is probably being at home with me, playing.
I am questioning whether I've done something 'wrong' because his behaviour is a bit challenging at the moment - saying 'no' to everything, potty training is a fucking nightmare challenge to say the least and he wants me to help with everything like getting dressed, getting shoes on, etc - other kids the same age want to 'do it self' and he is more likely to say 'mummy do it' - does that sound bad? Just want to canvass opinion on how independent 3-year-olds are I suppose.
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PenelopeChipShop · 22/07/2015 19:04
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