I'm really not getting things right with DD and want to improve it as much as I can. Any ideas anyone?
Her early years were very 'attachment parenting' focused and was happy with that. DS was born when DD was 3 and again I'm happy enough with the way I treat him.
But as DD has got older, I find myself increasingly frustrated by her. She is so lovely a lot of the time - imaginative, funny, plays really nicely with her brother and friends. She's happy at school and doing fine there. But she's so often very sulky, whiny and cross. Answers back a lot, argumentative, rude. Oh it just sounds so normal when I write it down and I KNOW it's not really about her but how I react to her that's the problem. Yesterday I said she was being a nasty little girl and I know how unkind that was of me. She's sulked half the morning because we didn't have any plans for the afternoon (we've been camping since Friday - this afternoon is just home and pottering). She never seems happy about anything.
And the reason I'm so desperately worried about this is that she is exactly like I was as a child. I was always disappointed in things, to the extent that for years and years I hated and dreaded birthdays holidays and Christmases because I couldn't bear any disappointment related to them.
I don't know how to help her, how to stop getting annoyed with her. I feel like she's going to remember me as a permanently cross mum.
We do lots of nice things I suppose - always have stories together before bed and a nice bedtime routine. The school and working week is busy and there's not much down time, but I'm a teacher so we have all our holidays together.
Any ideas? I feel like I've lost my way
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