Hi I have a 28 month old son who has been hard work from birth. Never settled, often cried and now at 28 months his behaviour is very embarrassing. He is very 'strong willed' all the time (which I know is many toddlers) but constantly shouts and screams at us. He has been to speech and language as he has had glue ear but their main concern was his very poor concentration. He points his finger and shouts no at people all the time, constantly pushes and hits and if random strangers or people he knows enters the room he usually shouts at them ..is this normal please? We tell him not to shout at people in a low stern voice, he sits on the time out chair/step for hitting and pushing..we are consistent and praise a lot when he does respond well but I am worried about his behaviour and lack of concentration. I feel silly asking but I worry about things like ASD and if so how to manage it. I know he is young and this is probably to early to tell but when he goes to the child-minder I look at the other children and they don't constantly look for a fight! Any advise please..i feel so embarrassed when out and about or visiting people as he will happily start at my grandparents house etc...
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very angry toddler- asd or just behaviour?!!
NessaWH123 · 16/07/2015 09:52
Also I understand how worried it makes you but honestly, these behaviours are VERY common indeed with toddlers, particularly I think boys though can't be sure of that! And they usually DO grow up to be lovely. My ds1 is 12 and you would never know he had been like this at 2/3/4.
Go easy on the discipline - usually no need for it at all, if you are prepared to distract, cuddle, give them something else to think about or whatever. Seriously none of the organised discipline even goes in at this age - you're wasting your efforts 
He WILL be reasonable and lovely one day, you don't need naughty steps or anything.
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It's normal - mine is exactly like that, no self restraint, they can't at this age. Of course I do speak to him and say 'NO' sometimes rather loudly, 
but it's a question of managing for them what they can't manage themselves.
Mine will not sit in a trolley at all, even when bribed. Supermarket has to involve my other children chasing him round while I try and shop as quickly as possible, and often they end up quite desperate. We have ten minutes if we're lucky.
It is exhausting. It is temporary though. I have to say my probably Autistic ds2 was always extremely compliant and easy in this regard (I thought I had cracked parenting, finally!) and not wild at all. It varies I think.
As I said lower expectations - shop online if you can - don't put yourself through it. It's a total nightmare, but very, very normal.
Mine is the same. Try and focus on his good behaviour. Sometimes I get so caught up on what a hooligan mine is that I forget he is pretty awesome in loads of ways.
But yes it is normal. And he will get older and it will all be a distant memory 
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Nessa for grommets and to get his ears check go private if u can- do u have insurance?
For ds1 we put grommets just before 2 and ds2 is getting grommets at 11mo (he has very enlarged adenoids !)
Re gluten nutritionists wouldn't know anything about it unless they r specialised in food and behavioural problems. Only really good professionals would pick up on this. If u google gluten and ADHD u ll c what I mean
U have nothing to loose
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