My DS has been dying to move and explore from the word go. He was very frustrated and eager to move as a tiny baby, so when he mastered crawling at 6mo he was off and I mean would literally crawl away and keep going if I had let him. He mastered walking at 9 months and to this day is still a runner. The thing is, he will just leg it wherever he feels the urge and no amount of screaming "STOP" or "Come to Mummy!" will work once he has decided he wants to go, he just completely ignores me and will keep going like he hasnt heard me. I have tried to be consistent and warn consequences such as "you'll go back in the pram if you do it again" and he inevitably does do it again so ends up in the pram. He will scream and thrash not to go back in but will calm down quite quickly and does seem to understand what he's done as he will beg to get out and say that he'll hold the pram. Then it just repeats.
It is not just running, it's also climbing on things he shouldn't and running off to places we tell him not to when inside. Once he decides he wants to do something, there is no stopping him, it is like he is compelled to do it. No amount of distraction seems to work, even if there are other organised activities going on in the room e.g. at a toddler group. He might also decide (this happens less often) that he randomly wants to scream or shout something or even just talk when wet are somewhere quiet, and me telling him that we need to be quiet just doesnt cut it).
I know it is the job of two year olds to be defiant, but he has cousins and friends of very similar ages and whilst they have their moments, they are controllable for the most part. DS is noticably on another level.
I have noticed that this behaviour seems to become exacerbated in social settings e.g. a party, wedding, christening etc. He just goes completely wild and uncontollable and if you try to restrain or physically remove him from whatever he wants to do, he will scream and thrash and it is like you can't get through to him - the determination on his face is such that you feel he has reached the point of no return. For example, we hosted a family party recently and he was just tearing round the place having a whale of a time but when I say his name and try to speak to him and he just kept wriggling away shouting "no mummy", I can't engage with him at all when he is in that zone. The only way to calm him down in those situations is to remove him to a quiet place. Sometimes that means us leaving wherever we are.
DP and other family I have spoken to ackowledge that he is hyperactive and he is well known for it, but they think it is just a personality thing and that he has a lot of energy and sense of exploration. They think that in social settings he is just over excited. It is hard not to worry that it is something more when it stands out from the behaviour of other children the same age though.
Just interested in what others think?
Just to add, I am confident he has a good understanding of what I am saying. He can follow instructions well and tell me what he wants too. He is also capable of concentrating on activities if he wants to. It is more that if he has decided he wants to do something, he will not be stopped.
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Hyperactive 2.5 year old, noticably more so in social settings
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YouMaySayImADreamer · 13/07/2015 17:07
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