Feel like my dd hates me, is this just a phase?

[plentychilled]

I have a dd who is 3 this month. I love her to pieces but she just doesn't like me .

She only wants daddy, says she loves daddy not mummy. When she's upset I'm not allowed to cuddle her and she shouts daddy cuddles, tells me to go away. I can't see to her when she wakes up in the night because she shouts not mummy, daddy! at me. Only daddy can put her shoes on, only daddy can take her to bed I can't do anything, I feel like such a failure.

I'm starting to resent my DP and it's not his fault, he tries hard to get her to come to me and she does sometimes but most of the time I'm told to go away. I don't know what I've done, I'm just sat in tears now because she fell over i went to pick her up and she screamed no not you I want daddy in my face. Please please tell me this is a phase, I don't know why she hates me so much.

[Itscurtainsforyou]

I know a lot of children who have gone through similar, at around the same time.

I was the favoured parent for a while, which is actually quite draining. We got to the point where my OH would go to help and, if told to go away, would say something along the lines of "mummy is busy, it's me or no one". I have no idea if that made a difference, but we're both interchangeable and equally in demand now (2-3 years down the line).

[Stubbed]

I had this with my son when my dd was born. We now arrange trips out for just me and him, doing special activities that are just for us. Camping weekend, going to the theatre, etc. it did wonders for our relationship

[cunchofbunts]

It will change! For almost three years, it was DH this, DH that. Then suddenly it's all me!

[plentychilled]

Thank you! I just feel so lost. Just want my little girl to hug me, yet here I am watching her cuddle daddy and the green eyed monster is coming out.

[Luna9]

My DD was the same but wanting me to do everything and not wanting daddy; it is a normal stage; don't take it personal, she is only 3. Does your husband spend more time with her than you?