My DD is generally a happy, imaginative sensitive child. However, every couple of days (sometimes a few times a day) she gets in a tizz about something, usually if I tell her off or things don't go her way and she runs away crying and then refuses to do the fun thing she'd been looking forward to and says something like, 'I want to, but I won't let myself'. She will hide in her room and refuse to be comforted.
I'm really concerned this is the start of self harm and I don't know how to help her work through issues without being self destructive. I've tried, when she's calm, talking about ways to deal with feelings and encourage her to talk about how she feels.
Her younger sister is much more open, will just say what's worrying her, or making her sad. It's then easy to chat about, cuddle, reassure etc.
It can't help that younger DD is naturally better at sports and drawing and more outgoing so gets more attention from relatives and our friends. Older DD is very aware that her younger sister is faster at running etc than her and really minds this.
We try so hard to be fair, encouraging and non-critical. I frequently tell her how great I think she is and how much I love her.
She is doing well at school and had a stable loving family. Her teacher has no particular concerns.
Has anyone had anything similar or any ideas on what to do to help her?
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Concern with almost 7 year old DD self punishing.
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wombatcheese · 01/07/2015 21:10
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