dd trouble at preschool

[knat]

DD (3) started preschool in september and has had no problems with being left there etc however she is quite strong willed and when it comes to finishing an activity to do snack time or wash hands etc she doesn't like it. She gets quite angry and makes a funny scream noise and does hit the teachers. The teachers have been v good with her and tried different methods some of which seem to have worked for a short time but they are on about getting the SENCO (special educational need) person in to observe dd with her keyworker to offer some advice.I feel a bit upset at this. I dont mind if its going to help but the thought of special needs makes me uneasy. At home she does say no and start to make the funny noise sometimes if she has to go and do something she doesn't want to but i'm firm with her and tell her if she doesnt do what i'm asking she wont get to do what she wants to do. Also with the squeal/scream - i ignore at first and if she carries on i tell her i'll scream back which she doesn't like. She either says ok and stops or pushes it and i scream and she hugs me and has a little cry and then is ok. (this is somethign that the teachers have also done). I think maybe they need to get firmer with her. I'm sure this is a normal 3 yr old reaction just that my dd is taking it to extremes. With the hitting - this used to be an issue at home but we used the naughty chair technique and i can't remember the last time she hit at home now. Anyone have any similar experience> Sorry for the long rant.

[Panyanpickle77]

Hi Knat, sorry to here you are having problems. I had exactly the same last year when my DD started nursery. She sound just like your dd, very independant, and very strong willed. The nursery were really unhelpful, and very quickly wanted to label her as a problem. One helper did not realise I was her mum, and stood in front of me saying " ADHD if ever I have seen it" (wtf......was she a helper or a flipping doctor!?!?).Anyhow, to cut a long story short we changed to a different nursery. The teachers/helpers at the new nursery couldn't believe how the last nursery had behaved (we eventually bit the bullet after the new yeacher manhandled her and screammed like a banshee at her on her first day back after christmas), and she settled really well, with no problems/issues like her first nursery. My advise to you, is to see how she settles as she has only been there a short time. If you still feel uneasy, follow your instincts and do what you feel is best. Good Luck

(dd is now at school and absolutely loves it)

[knat]

thanks mrs. DD loves going to preschool and the teachers do some very good there, I think im going to get them to instill the boundaries that i do - i think they're loathe to do it because they dont want to make her not want to come but i think there's inconsistency and if she gets the same reaction as she does at home it will help. HEre's hoping!