My DS will be five next month but his behaviour lately is worst that 2 years old at peak tantrum stage!
He has always been quite a nervous and anxious child, very insecure. He's behaviour is great at school but then at home we is constantly having harsh reactions, answering in a really rude tone and being stubborn to an insane level.
Because he's a very sensitive child I try to keep calm and reason with him, make say sorry and talk gently, but the tantrums and crying sessions have only increased.I'm at the end of my tether and it's been beyond hard to deal with him, today I lost it again!
He loves his youtube videos and to turn them off we always seem to have a fight! I made a "deal" with him this morning, I would let him see his video if he promised that there would be no tantrum or crying when asked to go to bath and bed. He promised, he read his book with me before (his daily task, 5 min reading) and then I turned youtube on for him. Come bath time, I told him 10 min before, to let him understand the idea, pass the 10 min and I said, ok, lets turn this off now....well he screamed his head off!! Trying to be calm I explained that tomorrow there will be no videos because you failed your promises...he screamed his head off even more and kept saying I will see videos, I will, I will...and nothing seems to stop him when he's like this and he always needs to have the last word. I finally dragged him to the bathroom and it took his 15 min to undress his trousers, I kept on talking really low and keeping calm, but after that time I lost it, I told him he his constantly being mean to me, that he is not my friend, that I had enough of his tantrum and I can't take it any more and that he behaves like a 1 year old....all this screaming MY head off.
DS was clearly upset, would not stop crying in a very nervous way, not in a tantrum way this time....I feel horrible now!
I have no idea what else can I do, how to react to his behaviour, how to deal with it....feeling completely lost. I hate screaming at him but it seems it's happening more and more because he's just not "manageable" at all, it's like talking to a wall. It feels most of our time is spent negotiating and hitting dead ends, with both being angry and nervous....I hate it, I hate this type of parenting but can't seem to get out of it, no matter what I try....
Please tell me I'm not alone and provide some clever ideas, I've really don't know what to do any more!
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feeling carpiest mum ever, just lost it!
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neshi · 17/06/2015 21:13
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