I was extremely shocked to open DD's (10) PC to find a word document containing a first person "essay" describing hard core sex (incl oral, some s+m. I was so shocked that I deleted it without reading all, and I don't know if it was copied, original writing or sent to her - it was in normal Word format and sounded like a cheap adult sex novel.
DD is a happy, clever and outgoing 10 year old. I have not noticed any change in her behaviour recently, she's doing very well at school and has lots of friends. However, she is also very good at hiding her emotions so it is not always easy to tell if everything is ok. She does not volunteer information and hates being asked. Like me and my mum, she started puberty early and is tall for her age.
I am pretty sure she has no access to audiovisual inappropriate content (restricted computer time and child safety software, no films rated above PC etc) and her email account looks fine. She does however read a lot of teenage books - I find it impossible to censor all her books! - and I can only imagine these were her source or inspiration, or that she somehow managed to get hold of an adult book in library.
Having overcome my initial shock and feeling of guilt, I waver between
A) not mentioning anything to DD and convincing myself that this a normal part of growing up and satisfying natural curiosity about something she's read somewhere; carry on as normal;
B) not mentioning anything to DD but closely monitor her reading and writing going forward, on the basis that confronting her would most likely result in denial, huge embarrassment and guilt and help drive her behaviour underground; and
C) speaking to her about it with a view to finding out where this came from and how she feels about it.
Reason suggests C) is the best option but DD tends to be quite sensitive and secretive and I am worried I will drive her away.
Any suggestions? Does anyone have a similar experience?
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ruby8 · 13/06/2015 13:43
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