I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice? My 12 year old started secondary school last September and has found it really hard to settle in. None of his primary friends are in his classes and he is very shy and sensitive and for the 1st 2 weeks was in the sick bay every day except one. Since then he has got in a bit of bother with the school for minor misbehaving, talking in class, pulling pupils jackets and basically winding people up. The teachers also said that he has got annoyed at people who make fun of him (he has a slight stutter) which has led to him losing his temper but nothing physical. Because of this I've had phone calls, a meeting, him on report and a detention. Then I got a call saying he was being suspended for 2 days because he was dared to smack a girl on the bottom and he did it. It's my belief this is down to him trying to make friends by making people laugh and messing about, trying to get people to like him. I had no problems while he was in primary school in fact the teachers all loved him and still ask after him. My concern is that he is being punished and possibly labelled as a bad child when he is just trying to settle in. It is a grammar school and is very strict and I know they want to stamp out bad behaviour straight away but I feel he needs support not punishment, (although i myself have punished him for each thing he has done). Am I wrong and looking at him through a mothers eyes or should I stand up for him with the school? I'm so confused and worried he will start dreading going to school and this could affect him emotionally as well as his work at school. Sorry for rambling!
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08/06/2015 16:02
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