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[skay2511]

Hi i have a 6 year old son who for the past 2 and a half years has had terrible anger issues and checks a lots of boxes for autisum but because when he gets to school he is a lovely kind and normal boys we have been told he is fine. He has a counciling and a mentor at school who we have regular contact with. But he just can not control his anger at home . He has to have constant control over our whole home and family , he is very resentful towards his two brothers . Very violent to wards me his mother and is very hostile towards his father for no reason at all. His brothers are scared of him and me and mu husband have tried everything to help him for time outs to reward charts. None of these have helped. He is actually very insucure and nervouse of everything outside of the family home. He is terrified of animals for no reason. Can not comprehend anything out side of his normal routine. If his day varys in anyway he acts out . We have had to install a meal plan i our house so he knows what he is eating on what day id this changes he gets very upset. He likes to play logically even as a toddler he would pretend play with a very logical mind. His older brother would play with a rocket ship and be flying to the moon but he would play that he was flying to asda to do his shopping. He hates to play anything that is not plausable and gets very agitated with his brothers if they want to play this way. Yet at school he plays and runs about the same as the other children.

Is he just running amock at home or is there a sign of something deeper going on? I love him dearly but know this behaviour is not normal. If anyone has a simular story or advice it would be greatly appreciate

Tia

[Goldmandra]

Masking their difficulties and working very hard to fit in socially is very common in children with high functioning Autism and should not be used as a reason not to diagnose them.

Lots of parents struggle to get their children support in school which they need but that need is not apparent until the child gets home and loses it.

There's a free forum for parents of children with ASD called ASD Friendly and they have a fantastic closed Facebook group which you can join once you're on the forum. I can't recommend it highly enough.

Also post on the SN board here for advice.

Installing a meal plan is a great idea and you can expand on that by giving him a visual timetable for each day too so he has a good idea of what he will be doing. This helps reduce anxiety and the constant need to gain control.

[skay2511]

Thank you so much . Xx

[Goldmandra]

Sorry, I missed out the 'in school' bit of that first sentence. Angel in school but nightmare at home is a very common picture of ASD.

[skay2511]

Thats a great help thank you. Im meeting with his teachers this week so going to do some research. :) xx