At a loss

[BendyMum15]

DS is 3 and his behvaiour is awful despite giving him firm boundaries, consequences etc....
He will not listen and will shout, cry and shriek when he isn't getting his own way. He doesn't like to engage in anything I suggest so occupying him has become a nightmare.
He also won't eat anything other than pasta and a couple of other bits. We have tried every approach under the sun and nothing has changed it.
I am going to speak to HV again tomorrow as I have no idea what to do.
I feel like its my fault - because we moved house, because we had another baby, because I haven't been firm enough, because I have been too firm, because I don't spend enough time with him, because I spend too much time with him....my list just goes on and on!
Just feel crap about it and at the end of my tether.

[BathshebaDarkstone]

When you find out let me know! All I can say is I feel your pain.

[BendyMum15]

So good to hear I am not alone!
and or for you too.

[Sycamore76]

I could have written an identical post ! Also have a three year old and a 12 week old . Today has been awful. Baby has silent reflux and has screamed all day as medicine needs increasing and 3 year ild very naughty and doesn't listen to a word I say. I lost if and should at him today and now feel terrible and tearful ! If I wasn't breastfeeding I would be downing wine :-(

[Sycamore76]

Shouted! Bloody phone

[BendyMum15]

I also have a DD who is 1 and I feel so sorry for her as I spend ao much time trying to get DS to behave. I remember last year when DS was being a pain and I was trying to cope with a baby as well.
I lost it and shouted today too and have had a little cry. Luckily I have a very lovely sister who I've been texting and she has been reassuring - she doesn't have kids but sometimes you just need to hear that all will be ok. Am sure all this will put both of my sisters off having kids!

[SlicedPan]

Same here! 3yo just moves from one tantrum to the next, we are constantly trying to negotiate around anything that might cause the next one, from the moment she wakes to the moment she goes to sleep at night. If it helps, my 5yo was the same, they do grow out of it, unfortunately I'm preparing for the same from my one year old in about a years' time! God help me....

[melisma]

Just adding my voice to the chorus of "you are not alone" - I also have 1yr old DD and 3 yr old DS, who seems allergic to listening to anything I say. It drives me utterly crackers. and for you.