I have a 3yo ds with possible Aspergers (first assessment in a few weeks). For 2 years he has been going to nursery but he still, after this time, gets very upset at drop off - nearly every single time. Currently he goes one day per week. He always has a good time and I have absolute confidence in the nursery in that they look after him well and kindly. They are also good at responding to his 'peculiarities' and the times that my dh or I have picked ds up earlier than expected he seems happy and looked after and has been happy. He has also started talking about his friends for the first time, and speaks lovingly of the adults there.
Next week he will start two days per week (back to back days). I've had to increase my hours at work for both financial and job role reasons, and we also feel that as ds will be starting school next year he needs to start going to this type of setting more often, to help with that eventual transition. It's a decision we've agonised over.
My ds is NOT going to take it well. He gets anxious in the days leading up to his nursery day and will frequently say 'not going to nursery tomorrow?' He is clearly anxious about that, and on the day he's been to nursery he is noticeably happier, knowing he doesn't go back for a week.
He likes structure and routine and we've learned to give him days warning of any routine changes, in which case he usually deals well with it. In this case we just don't know how best to approach it, so we're looking for advice. If we tell him now, or too far in advance, he's going to be stressed about it for ages. I know he will really fixate, and be very distressed. If we spring it on him on the day of his first 'second day' he is going to be extremely upset and will probably have a lot of anxiety for some time afterwards. We genuinely are conflicted, so any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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SerJorahsSecondChoice · 27/05/2015 13:03
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