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DS(8) disruptive behaviour please help.

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Clarabumps Fri 01-May-15 16:13:35

I had DS parents night last night and was told although he is great academically, he is disruptive in class. He has to be spoken to 4 or 5 times a day and is always chatting to his friends and generally being a nuisance.
I spoke with DS and told him I was really disappointed. Explained all the reasons why he couldn't behave like that. I also told him that i'd be speaking to the teacher every day to check that he had behaved. I made up a reward chart and if he listened in school and at home then he would get a point and then at the end of the week he could go to his clubs/get pocket money etc.
He agreed, we made up and all seemed fine.

Then today I go to pick him up from school and he has been in trouble again. She had to stop the class several times this morning and then at break he ran off into the playing field with his friend when the bell rang. I'm so disappointed. I honestly don't know what to do now.

Has anyone experience this and how did you tackle it. I really am at a loss. It's just like he doesn't care. He's very sorry when he gets caught but then goes and does it again. Please help, any advice gratefully received.

I'm at the end of my tether with all this.

KS676 Fri 01-May-15 16:55:57

How old is he? This sounds so like my son used to be, he was between 7 and 9 when his behaviour was at it's worst. Everything you said you have done is what I did stick to it! It is a long road but does work. We also found my son activities to do out side school, achurch youth group and scouts etc these helped to calm him down, he is 14 now and flying at school, he is a real gentleman to be around.
Keep talking with the school and rewarding the good behaivor, stick to punishments you set and remember your not the only one going through it even though you feel like that at the moment, stay strong x

ragged Fri 01-May-15 17:06:55

yr3 or yr4?

The school should have a whole incentive scheme going on this, house points or stars or little privileges, whatever.

At least he's only chatty & running away, not beating people up.

Clarabumps Fri 01-May-15 18:16:33

He's 7, He'll be 8 in July. He's in Primary 3 (Scotland) so I think it's year 4?. I'm so relieved that someone else has been through this . I am just going to have to keep going with it. He's a really good wee boy normally and he's very confident but he doesn't seem to get that he can't just talk over people(especially the teacher).
Argh!!! I'm so exhausted with constantly thinking "what am I doing wrong?"

I need a wine. It's been a long week.

Clarabumps Fri 01-May-15 18:17:20

Ragged- Very true. I feel marginally better he's not battering people.

ragged Fri 01-May-15 18:50:50

Here go wine.
I'm afraid these things come up as a parent, you just have to persist with the good messages and giving school full support.
It can be good to talk to him about what is distracting him, why can't he just sit and listen. Why did he run away. Don't pester or tell him how he should feel, just try to get him to talk about what's going on his head, let him express feelings & after a lot of listening you can suggest a few ideas how he could respond instead when he feels like chatting & running are best options.

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