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What to do about sibling bullying?

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5ChildrenAndIt Fri 06-Feb-15 19:26:52

... Or at least persistent meanness, belittling and criticism from my pre-teen DD to her 6yo brother.

OutragedFromLeeds Fri 06-Feb-15 21:57:50

Come down really, really, really hard on the bully. It's utterly unacceptable.

I had the same problem with DC1 10yo bullying DC3 7yo (and to a lesser extent DC2).

We have a zero tolerance policy and things have definitely improved. I try and praise her every time she says/does anything nice.

ShouldiWork Fri 06-Feb-15 23:17:29

I do try - but I fear that punishment is feeding the bad atmosphere between them.

tostaky Sun 08-Feb-15 22:23:49

Same as isshouldhave
DC1 is clearly bullying DC2 ... No sure what method is the best especially for all the low level bullying...
I have yet to find a book that addresses this issue.

ShouldiWork Tue 10-Feb-15 07:28:41

The problem is that I think it is driven by frustration rather than malice. DS really can be quite hyper/distractable.

I keep pointing out to DD that if she was more polite and constructive in saying stop jumping/singing/walking about in a daze/spilling your food on me - she would probably have a point - but in the moment DD often picks an 'over assertive' strategy to express her frustration.

Looking from the outside in, the effect is basically of a bouncing puppy getting kicked. We somehow need to change the pattern for both their sakes and boost their bond and their communication.

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