10mth old not responding to name/ignoring me.(10 Posts)
Firstly let me just say that I have a 6yo DS who has ASD, he was diagnosed at two and a half and I just can't remember what he was like as a baby (or my other two neurotypical DS's before him insert Mammy guilt here
The latest addition to our family is a little DD and she is lovely, she rolls all over the place, holds finger food to eat it, is a bit obsessed with the TV whenever the kids watch it (slightly worrying but do all babies love the TV?)
She is babbling but nothing meaningful yet, not crawling or even close to crawling or pulling herself up etc yet either.
She does mimic our faces, eg stick tongue out etc and loves peek a boo and songs (especially if they are from Frozen!) She laughs her head off at the boys when they dance or play with her and loves to play with me and DH too.
If you are interesting enough she will hold eye contact no problem.
The thing is, she totally ignores her name when you call her. You could literally say it twenty times in a row and she won't so much as even look your way.
If you make a more interesting sound however (like blowing raspberries or laughing/singing) then she will usually grace you with an acknowledgement or most likely give you a passing glance if something more entertaining is in her line of vision lol
I keep reading that babies should respond to their names by ten months (and that lots are crawling by this stage too) but she completely and utterly ignores me and DH mainly when we call her name.
The boys have better luck with her as when they call her she will respond at least 50% of the time, but with us adults, nothing!
I have just called her name again, over and over and over and she has ignored me yet again, until I make a more enticing sound.
Is this okay?
I'm paranoid I know I am because DS3 has autism. It came as a shock to us and we were so unprepared, I suppose I just want to be extra vigilant with DD and try to catch it early.
DH is just as stressed as me about it and forever analyzing everything she does (as do I) so we aren't making it easy on ourselves I know.
It's just the responding to her name is such a big thing and then it makes you wonder about other little things that could be made into big things too.
I'm rambling, sorry.
I would love a bit of advice please.
I don't have any experience of autism but I wondered whether her hearing had been checked recently.
Would she turn around if you rustled a sweet wrapper or similar? When she has her back to you and you call her name, you get no response, but would you get a response if you said something else, eg "Oh X has come home" or "Oh look a dog is in the garden!"?
Thank you Imperial.
Yes her hearing has been checked and it is perfect. I should have mentioned that.
So would she respond to any other sound? Is it just when you are clearly speaking to her (eg calling her name) that she doesn't respond, or would she not respond to the "Oh there's a dog outside" either?
She would respond to sounds and noises and if the boys speak (read shout as they are so loud) to her.
Sometimes she responds to me talking to her and sometimes she doesn't. It's about 50%.
She won't sit and watch me chat to her for long, something else will always get her attention (even her own feet!)
If I started talking without getting her attention first, she would just ignore me.
I think the reason you can't remember your other children's behaviour at this age is because there was nothing there to concern you.
Could you ask your health visitor for some advice? Your daughter is still very young and the health visitor might well be able to reassure you.
Does her behaviour resemble your DS3's behaviour?
Sorry I'm not much help.
Could have written this when ds was that age although he doesn't have any siblings with ASD.
He would completely ignore me calling his name in any tone of voice no matter how many times I repeated it.
Now at almost 20 months I have absolutely no concerns, he still chooses if he wants to answer to his name at times but definitely knows his name and shows no other signs of ASD.
If you have any concerns I think as a mother you just know if something isn't right but I wouldn't worry too much at this point.
Oh and I should add he was always less responsive when focusing on a new skill like walking or climbing. I noticed him becoming much more responsive around 14 months.
I have two with ASD and two without it.
The two NT ones both responded to their names but (as far as I can remember) 10mths would have been fairly early on for this. I would say to keep an eye on that but that it's probably a little early to worry about that yet.
I also vaguely remember reading somewhere that crawling isn't used as a specific milestone because it can vary so much from one child to another. My earliest child to crawl turned out to be the one with ASD and lots of dyspraxic traits. One of my NT children didn't crawl at all.
It might be worth keeping some notes of any concerns. That way if you do feel that your dd needs to be assessed, you'll have records to refer back to.
I think my ds2 (ASD) was about 14mths or so when the Early Years team agreed that he might need further investigation and made a referral.
I also found that when I took ds1 (ASD) to appointments, the professionals would ask if I had any concerns about ds2. If you see anyone like that for your ds3, it might be worth mentioning your dd to them informally to see what they say.
My son didn't respond to his name when he should have but now he is 2 and a very sociable little boy and I don't think he is autistic.
I often call him nick names (not always the sane one) I realised that I didn't often use his name. Do you call your dd sweetie of lovely or pudding or something which she might be confusing with her name?
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