Our 12 month old son is having issues settling himself at night in his cot.
His cot is in our room. He sleeps in his cot at 7, but usually wakes up crying around 11pm. He can't sleep in his cot from then onwards and ends up sleeping on top of my partner in bed. We try to put him on his back in our bed, but moves around unable to find a comfortable position to sleep in.
We stopped giving him the dummy two weeks ago. Would this be the cause and would it be very unwise to reintroduce it.
Not a fan of the dummy but my ds did this from 6-18 months or so. We ended up co- sleeping dp in spare room. We made time for sex on ither occasions. Tbh we never solved it- we tried cry it out- ds just wouldn't go to sleep- just stayed awake. How we overcame it at 18 months was moving ds into own room, big single bed, made it v dark we made sure ds didn't fall asleep attached to us in anyway- which led to crying but nothing voice soothing or singing didn't cure. If ds woke dp or I would go into the bed but never again brought him into ours. From day 2 he slept through It's not perfect we have phases where I'm constantly in their from maybe 2 am- but then we have great weeks where he sleeps through every night. He's now 2.5 he never liked the cot full stop
Id give the dummy back and see if that helps - even if you just give it at eleven when he wakes. If that doesnt work, fine, try something else, but if its tied to the dummy then just go back to it. Keeping it for sleeps only is fine and can be tackled a year or so down the line if needed.
I would try giving the dummy back. Don't stress about it, if it works. Ds still has his at 3.5yrs. He only has it to drop off to sleep & there's no impact on his teeth. We're expecting him to give it up soon when ds2 arrives & ds1 realises they're for babies.
If you really don't want the dummy could you try another comforter such as a silky soft blanket or something? I did this with DS and put the blanket close to my skin for a few minutes before he had it the first few nights so it had a comforting scent.