grandson 3 and a half years old, is driving his mum mad due to constant battles. He will not do ANYTHING he is asked, told or requested, Is never still, if sat down will constantly squirm and wriggle. Attends pre school 5 mornings a week , 8am -11-50, Some good days , some bad days. They had to give him a high viz jacket and a clipboard just to get him to behave at first, He doesn't like to be told what to do, has a very short attention span, seems unable to sit and listen for more than 2 minutes. HE IS VERY INTELLIGENT, only needs to be shown something once, and he 'gets' it. Seems 'old headed'. Been like this for over 6months, has a new baby brother (9 weeks), so it isn't because he feels left out, He has two lovely parents who adore him, dad works, mum on maternity leave. Very good homelife, but his constant whining and open defiance are very hard to deal with, very loud, very insistant, and sometimes very embarrassing, Worried that other mums think he is bad influence , which to be fair, at the moment he is, all this is depressing mum, she cries, is exhausted
Do you think that he is expected to behave older than his years as his intelligence may belie an emotional immaturity. The baby will have had an impact and lots of kids his age don't sit still for any length of time. How are things presented to him , is he given so much choice or say but perhaps can't express his confusion and frustration . Does he have simple and clear boundaries for behaviour and routine.