Hi everyone,
Let me start by saying that our 3yo DD has always been ahead with her language and her imaginative play (e.g role playing). So at 18 months, for instance, we counted over 200 words. Very good so far.
For a long time we've noticed her language occasionally being quite dark. Around 2yo she told her mum that she dreamed "mummy put me in an oven, burnt me to a crisp and then ate me". Or "let's play cut the pig". Or "there are needles in our eyes".
I think that generally I've put it down to misspeaking and it just sounding dark to our ears. "Burnt me to a crisp and ate me" could easily be the misunderstanding of the expression "burnt to a crisp" from a book or something.
She now has a 6 month old brother and his arrival has disrupted her a little. We've noticed that sleep, eating and general behaviour is worse. And again, nothing really concerning.
Occasionally she's a little rough with him, but this morning she said something that really alarmed me. She had placed a soft, collapsible container around his face as he was lying down, and was pressing it too hard. I asked her to stop.
At this point she said "no, I don't want him to live any more". She said "I squeezed his head three times and then he cried".
Of course I then attempted to explain that hurting him or wanting to hurt him was wrong. That she was the only person in the world special enough to be his sister, and she should protect him and care for him, as we all protect and care for people in our family. When prompted she apologised.
I'm just starting to worry about the frequency and nature of this language. Last week she described a princess who could spawn a baby from inside her chest, who had a knife in its hands and would "hit soldiers in the head with it".
We're stumped about where this is coming from. She's not exposed to anything nasty on TV, films or videogames. I have a dark sense of humour myself, but can't think of any occasion when I've shown this side to her.
Final point - she's not particularly shy or forward. She's not especially rough. If she leans in any direction, it's towards being scared of getting hurt and of monsters/bad guys in stories. Plus she wakes up every night at least once, saying she has bad dreams. She's also telling a lot of lies at the moment, so this may or may not be true.
Questions are - do we do anything now or any time in the future if this continues? Is it possible that her relatively advanced vocabulary combined with her immature reasoning, give the impression of something that's not really there?
Thank you!
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3yo DD - Concerning Violent Statements
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vladimirimp · 16/12/2014 13:53
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