I've been with my partner( we're not married) for 4 years we have a son together now who is one and I have a stepson who is 6.
He is a lovely happy boy most of the time but I am becoming increasingly concerned about him and don't know where to turn. We have always had him one night over the weekend, this happened before I came along, every weekend. It does put a strain on us and what we can do as a family. His mother will not allow him to come another night, or multiple nights he is not allowed to visit or stay with other people and we are not allowed to take him on holiday. My partner has been to mediation with her as she stopped contact when our son was born, my partner doesn't want to go to court as he's terrified they will put a stop to his weekly contact. He was doing fine but recently we've had issues with him peeing and soiling himself which I spoke to his mother about she won't take him to a doc and he's being doing it at school although they don't seem too concerned?! He carrys on as if he's not done it and isn't bothered if were out in public. His behaviour is changing also he doesn't listen to instruction or if u explain he could hurt himself doing something he will just carry on and he's started telling lies and over the top stories which sometimes are worrying. He told us his mum told him to remove a pizza from an oven and burnt himself (he had he mark to prove it!!) we also are not told about his home life, he lives with his mum his step dad and little sister who is less than a year old. He seems happy but tells me that the house is too small and he will have to share a room with his sister and he's not happy about it. He's regularly waking at 4:30 to get into bed with his mum when her partner leaves and we recently found out he's going to bed at 6 pm every night, basically so he doesn't cross paths with his stepdad. When chatting to his mum about his peeing issue I had asked her about the fact she was still making him wear nappies at bedtime which she told me was true! My stepson apparently isn't allowed to go to the toilet at night because of her partner either. I'm at a loss, she won't speak to my partner as they always argue. I'm fed up of my stepson being sent to my house filthy and bad clothing, he had shoes two sizes too small and when I tried to send some clothes we got told she wasn't a charity case and she still sent him in awful stuff. I get so upset and frustrated because I love my stepson like my own and I can see he's struggling but I don't know how to help him :( thanks for listening
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Help with my 6 year old stepson please!!!
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Hendrix67 · 10/12/2014 16:22
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