I just wanted to say don't let anyone tell you to put him/her down more, that you've caused it etc.
DD1 was high needs. Couldn't put her down at all, feeds took 1.5 hrs, 8 times a day etc etc. I didn't have the time to do anything at all in the house, my back went. One particularly proud day when DD was about 4 weeks I did my first chore in the house. Pressing start on the dishwasher - DH had loaded it and put the dishwasher tablet in, mind. I just had to put my mug in - breakfast naturally was Belvita biscuits, no potential for anything needing a spoon.
Fast forward 3 years and here's DD2. I knew when I was pregnant that she was more laid back. She is nearly 4 weeks, sleeps in her Moses basket day and night, quick feeder and lies around awake just watching stuff. NOT BEING HELD. I couldn't believe it!!!! I've decluttered all my clothes, am cleaning, writing thank you cards etc...and sneaking lovely newborn cuddles.
The reason for writing this is to try to reassure those of you with high needs babies that it's not your fault. It is hard work, so don't compare yourselves to others. Don't beat yourself up about why you can't do anything in the house when others are. Mumsnet has been invaluable to me since DD1 was born so I hope this might help someone. Enjoy your babies!
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CheshireSplat · 10/12/2014 15:36
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