I took DS2, 4 years, to the dr this evening as he has been ill for the last 5 days or so with flu and was off school today. He hasn't been that unwell (temp comes down with calpol) but this afternoon was complaining that his "brain" and ears were hurting so thought I would get him checked. I made appointments for him and also for myself as I think I have bruised my ribs (don't ask!). So, I take the DS2 and DSI (6), who we picked up from school at 3.10, to the appointment at 5.40. Our nanny left a month ago and we have been using temps ever since and had no childcare today (their dad was supposed to take them after-school but we switched things around when DS2 was off school so that my ex looked after him until 2.15 when I ran back from work to take over) so I couldn't leave DSI with at home with a nanny so he had to come with us. We go in and I explain the problem and she checks DS2. As she is doing this, DS1 starts mucking around by weighing himself on her scales and picking up equipment from her desk, playing with the light. I asked him to stop/told him off several times but he didn't listen so I got up and physically stopped him. The dr seemed quite grumpy about it and told him off too but then offered to listen to his chest as he was interested her stethoscope (sp?). The dr then said, oh he hasn't had his pre-school immunisations, which I was very surprised about as I thought he had. I decided not to give him MMR (he had the single jabs) but I was pretty sure that he had had the others. So I said I would book an appointment for as soon as he was better and did so when we came out. Anyhow, we left the dr then waited 20 minutes for my appointment to check my ribs which I am sure are either bruised or even cracked as very painful.
As we go in the dr looks confused and says, oh were you just here? And I said, yes, but the appointment was for me son. He then gestured towards the notes on the computer which, from memory, read something like this: "Child behavioural issues". DS2 presented with ear infection. Antibiotics given. DS1 displayed age inappropriate attention seeking behaviour. e.g. touching medical equipment when repeatedly told not to, mother seemed to struggle to control the behaviour. DS2 has missed his pre-school immunisations." I think that was it. I was completely confused and asked why the dr had written notes about me and DS1 when the appointment was for DS2! The dr was also confused and said perhaps she had put them in the wrong place/file?? He then said perhaps she was trying to be helpful and had identified some problem/issue he has!! I said I didn't see how she could diagnose anything in 5 minutes and if she was then she should have told me! Dr said he would get the other dr to call me tomorrow but I am now confused and terrified. Is she building a case for social services on the basis that i) she thinks DS1 has behavioural issues and ii) I forgot DS2's immunisations? I never received any reminders BTW. DS1 is quite naughty/spirited and had some minor issues when he started reception (his teacher wrongly suggested autism which was very quickly rules out) but has been going from strength to strength and doing well as school. His teachers don't have any concerns. However, as we did have some minor concerns in Reception, we went on the waiting list for the school counsel and stayed on just in case anything came up. My ex and I met with her for a couple of sessions recently to discuss DS1 where we all agreed he is fine/no issues with him but that it would be best for the children if my ex and I learnt to communicate better. Surely though behavioural issues are not enough to call SS over? I am really worried. The dr will hopefully call me tomorrow to explain why she took those notes but in the meantime I can't stop thinking about it.
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Minki · 02/12/2014 23:37
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