Hi. I was widowed last April and have two children, a daughter aged 11 and a son aged 6. My daughter has always picked on her younger brother but lately it really seems to have come to a head. She is constantly on his case: telling him what to do, telling him off if he does something she perceives is wrong and worst of all being violent towards him for the smallest of reasons, or sometimes no reason at all. I always ascertain the facts before wading in, but invariably it's my daughter that I have to tell off/punish. I've tried every way of dealing with it that I can think of but nothing seems to be working and we're in this horrible vicious circle. She does something to him, I defend him and tell her off, she's in a bad mood and does something to him etc etc. We had counselling as a family when my husband died as I thought it might be an outlet for her anger and upset, but that didn't really seem to help a great deal. I don't know if this is normal sibling rivalry, normal behaviour for an 11 year old as it's a time in her life of many changes (school and the onset of puberty, as well as her bereavement) or whether it's something more than that and something to be worried about and try to tackle. I don't know what to do and it's really starting to get me down. Any help or advice you could give would be very, very welcome. Thank you.
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