Is it the childminder?

[littletikes]

i have been desparate for a childminder or au pair for a long time and have finnaly found one that will do just Sundays for me. I work only on this day and have no other childcare. The childminder has been coming round every thursday afternoon for 4 weeks. From the moment they were introduced at the front door my daughter screamed and will not stop crying, throwing herself to the floor etc. For the duration that she is their she will not go near her and screams everytime the childminder goes near her. i have notice that the childminder has no expression in ther face, rarely smiles, and has just one tome in her speech. She has all the qualifications you could ever need and is currently studying to be a child phsycologist.
Do you think this will pass or do you think that mylittle girl has just taken an instant dislike to her. Other people come through my door that she does not know and she never reacts like this.

[HumphreyPETERCUSHINGCushion]

Hi, Littletikes,

Does the childminder make any effort to engage your daughter, or to get to know her?

re your comments "Other people come through my door that she does not know and she never reacts like this."

and

"the childminder has no expression in ther face, rarely smiles, and has just one tome in her speech".

For me that would mean that this person is not suitable for my child, and I wouldn't employ her to care for her.

Qualifications are irrelevant if the person is simply not the right person for your family.

[dinny]

don't leave her with this person, no way. find someone your daughter likes.

[QuiQuoQua]

litteltikes you need to be absolutely certain that that's the right person for your child. I agree it's not just about the qualifications but the general feeling. You need to be able to leave for work and be sure in your heart that your daughter is happy, will ahve a good time and likes being in the company of that person.
I am sure the childminder is lovely but not everyone gets along with evrybody.

I think kids sense what's going to happen and maybe your DD has sensed your apprehension too.

My DD was fine with mine childminder very very early on and absolutely adored her DH which made my decision much easier.

[littletikes]

Yes i have had my reservations from the 1st time she came to me. I show a lot of expression in my face with my children, if my children do well or something good i smile and make my eyes wide, maybe clap and look really pleased in my face. This lady just says good boy/girl in one tone not smiling or expession. She really does not smile at anything my children do or show her. I really cant write what i mean. If only you could see my face whilst typing this to know what i mean. I suppose i am hanging on for hope that things will improve, as i have never found anyone to look after the kids on a sunday before.