I don't know what to do.
Every weekend we have a recurring nightmare trying to get dd1 to tidy - or even attempt to tidy - her room. It ends up in a disgusting mess. Clothes, books and toys strewn everywhere. Dirty knickers shoved down the side of her bed, stuff trampled on so it breaks. Her carpet is ruined from doing craft 'activities' despite being told umpteen times not to.
Nothing works. Reward charts - pointless. Shouting - pointless. Bagging up her stuff regardless of what it is - upsets her but no further impact.
Today we sent her to tidy her room. Nearly two hours later all she had done was put books back on her bookcase. I saw red, bagged up everything that was on the floor, hoovered up the sequins/lego that were still everywhere. She is now sulking.
It is making home life intolerable. Dh is also extremely messy and I also have a 3 yo. We argue about the state of the house constantly and dd1 refuses to attempt to play ball.
She hasn't been allowed a playdate until she can prove she can keep her room tidy when asked. This has been the case for over a year and she knows why I saw no to having friends over but it makes no difference.
We have also tried let's see who can tidy the best but again, pointless.
Dh is also sulking because I begged for help but I think that is another thread.
I work (pt) and we cannot afford a cleaner, not that it would really help in this instance.
Please help. Home life is horrible.
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At the end of my tether with dd aged 7
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manchestermummy · 01/11/2014 15:17
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