DS has always been a difficult child. The difficulties manifest themselves in numerous ways such as:
acts of aggression for perceived / imagined slights;
wilful disobedience;
DH hates the word but I would definitely say he has periods of "hyperactivity";
whining / crying when he doesn't get his own way.
He is 5 years old going on 6 and I feel he should be not necessarily calming down but at least appreciating that there are certain behaviours that are not done.
We deal with each situation as a new one and try not to dwell on things in the past but it is becoming really hard as he is currently in a downward spiral of bad behaviour - consequence, which leads to more bad behaviour and the other day he tried to hit me in the face when he didn't like something I said. He also frequently hurts his younger brother.
The school are also working really hard at helping him to understand boundaries and he is generally liked by some of the kids. However, I am noticing already that some of the parents are giving me a bit of a wide berth.
On the positive side I am hugely reassured by the fact that whenever there is a child in trouble at school DS will be the first person to be there trying to help; he is also a child that loves learning and he has made huge progress academically this year.
What I want to know is, will he ever get over this or will he always be difficult? It really frightens me sometimes because my grandfather was abusive to my dad and my dad tried really hard to control himself he had issues as well (I always believed it was as a result of his upbringing).
Recently I have just felt like crying because I never imagined one of my kids to be this badly behaved. We are trying so hard to help him but none it seems to be working at the moment.
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80schild · 19/08/2014 10:29
80schild · 19/08/2014 10:29
DS has always been a difficult child. The difficulties manifest themselves in numerous ways such as:
acts of aggression for perceived / imagined slights;
wilful disobedience;
DH hates the word but I would definitely say he has periods of "hyperactivity";
whining / crying when he doesn't get his own way.
He is 5 years old going on 6 and I feel he should be not necessarily calming down but at least appreciating that there are certain behaviours that are not done.
We deal with each situation as a new one and try not to dwell on things in the past but it is becoming really hard as he is currently in a downward spiral of bad behaviour - consequence, which leads to more bad behaviour and the other day he tried to hit me in the face when he didn't like something I said. He also frequently hurts his younger brother.
The school are also working really hard at helping him to understand boundaries and he is generally liked by some of the kids. However, I am noticing already that some of the parents are giving me a bit of a wide berth.
On the positive side I am hugely reassured by the fact that whenever there is a child in trouble at school DS will be the first person to be there trying to help; he is also a child that loves learning and he has made huge progress academically this year.
What I want to know is, will he ever get over this or will he always be difficult? It really frightens me sometimes because my grandfather was abusive to my dad and my dad tried really hard to control himself he had issues as well (I always believed it was as a result of his upbringing).
Recently I have just felt like crying because I never imagined one of my kids to be this badly behaved. We are trying so hard to help him but none it seems to be working at the moment.
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