I am in desperate need of some advice from anyone who may be going or has gone through this.
My daughter has just turned 4 in July and for as long as I can recall she is obsessed by food. I'm talking it's the first thing she says when she gets up and the last thing she asks for before she goes to bed. Her whole day has to evolve around food also. For instance myself and dh have been off work this week and have tried to take her out everyday to keep her entertained. All she cares about is have we got the picnic what's in the picnic when can she have her picnic etc. And it is really getting me down.
I will be honest she seems very greedy but it is not just treats she wants like I would expect most children to its more of everything. I may not find this such an issue but she is a very large child. She is tall for her age but is also at least twice the 'width' of other children around her and is uncomfortable in clothes finds it hard to get clothes to fit and gets more out of breath doing activities. I know it sounds very harsh talking about your own child in this way but it's really upsetting to me as my sister was a larger child and was bullied and called at school which was awful to see and I don't want my child to have to go through that.
I have aired my concerns to others but always get the usual well she's tall, she will grow out of it etc responses which are not really helpful. I even mentioned it to my gp once and was just shunned off even though it is very clear to anyone that looks at her she is overweight. It's like a habit with her that I really need to break before it goes any further but she has me at the end of my tether at times and refuses to give in even though I say no!
I wouldn't say I had the most healthiest of diets but if I do want to eat something 'naughty' I generally won't do this in front of her. I am not o overweight, my dh is but generally doesn't eat a lot of unhealthy foods either. I have always tried to give her the best and even from being a baby weaned her on everything homemade, no salt, no sugar, no jars of food, she was breast fed. Now she will.eat fruit veg family meals and rarely has children's foods such as chicken nuggets, fish fingers etc as will generally choose something else. I do let her have some treats as I don't want her to go the other way and be obsessed by her body image either (I have gone through this and it's not good either). Her grandparents and other family members who she is in care of at times will just give her anything she wants even though they admit she is overweight. I have spoken to them about this but it just doesn't sink in, I think sometimes it's for an easy life as you do have to be really firm with her.
Her behaviour gets very aggressive about food too and she will get very angry grit her teeth etc when I say no.
I really need to break this habit especially since she starts school September and ds is due in a matter of weeks. I just don't know what I am doing wrong so any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Advice desperately needed - 4 year old daughter food obsessed
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JanineWardle86 · 01/08/2014 15:23
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