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3 year old hitting and nipping

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needaholidaynow Fri 11-Jul-14 16:46:43

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Soila Fri 11-Jul-14 17:21:44

Hi,

It's common for children to have arguments and fights but you know your child well and are able to tell if you need to be concerned or not.

Either way, you're right to want to deal with it because that's just how they learn right?

May I ask if there has been any changes in the family or his environment at all?

When exactly did the hitting/nipping start?

Sometimes it can help to find a trigger for the behaviour as then you have a starting point.

Also, when he behaves in this manner, what do you do or how do you handle it?

Thanks

Soila

needaholidaynow Fri 11-Jul-14 17:45:47

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Soila Fri 11-Jul-14 18:12:02

Doesn't sound like you're too harsh at all.

It is hard to share at this age that's true but it still needs to be taught.

You're probably doing this already but when you sit him on the couch for quiet time, I would probably give him a "warning" before that?

So if he hits his brother, 1) go over to him, 2) stoop down to his level, 3) get eye contact and 4) say in a very firm voice, "Sam, you are not to hit your brother again. If you don't want to share with him then tell him but do not hit him. If you hit him again you will have time out on the couch for 3 mins. Is that clear?" (3 mins = I min for each year of his life ).

Yes, he will need to apologise.

Stick to the same process as you're doing if he repeats the behaviour.

The trick is to truly carry out the consequence and stick to it.

You could share this with nursery and see if they can do the same, that way, the consequence of his behaviour is consistent both at home and school.

You could also ask school what they do and then implement their strategy at home - so vice versa.

Does that make sense?

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