I'm sure this is a very common problem, but I can't seem to stop arguing with my soon to be 9 year old daughter! She is a lovely, clever girl, but since the word go has always been 'demanding'. She is often rude - often I think without meaning to be, it's just her way of wording is quite, ahem, direct. We and her dad are constantly trying to correct rudeness (examples, terrible table manners, still. EVERY BLOOMING MEALTIME!, being mean to her sister, answering back, shouting in our faces, constantly needing reminding to do simple things like make her bed, put the lid on the toothpaste, flush the chain etc etc.) I'm at my wits end with her cos we do use all the positive reinforcement and love her dearly, but getting fed up having to tell her off constantly. I'm also concerned it's having a really negative effect on her self esteem as she is constantly looking in the mirror, hating what she sees, cant' choose what to wear for worry about getting it 'wrong' and has even said 'I know I'm rude and not very nice'. It breaks my heart, I just don't feel like I'm striking the right balance between disciplining unacceptable behaviour and being a nice mummy! Any shared stories or advice gratefully received, and yes, I do lose my temper with her sometimes, I'm only human I know I'm at fault too.
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