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Embarrassing behaviour from 4 year old

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Kernow1973 · 03/06/2014 02:52

Our 4 yr old is a very social & loving girl. She has recently begun however to be 'over' friendly to adults we barely know, such as staff at children's centres or the property manager from our recent holiday. It seems that if they show any interest in her or smile at her she describes them as her 'best friend' ans keeps showering them in hugs & kisses. This week she rather embarrassingly did it to her male swimming teacher. Poor bloke didn't know what to do. We don't want to stifle her loving ness but feel she needs guidance on appropriateness & boundaries. Am looking for advice on how to approach this please! She gets plenty of affection from us but we wondered if she may be feeling insecure as starting school soon??

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boringlivingroom · 03/06/2014 09:07

Have you been talking up school a lot? If so maybe ease off.

Also explain to her about showing how she likes people.

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LastingLight · 03/06/2014 09:20

Talk about how some people do not like being hugged or kissed, and show her the behaviour that is only acceptable for family. I would hesitate to say "close friends" as well as she clearly cannot distinguish.

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DeWee · 03/06/2014 09:53

I agree with Lasting. Suggest she draws them a picture or something to take them.

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Kernow1973 · 14/06/2014 00:03

Thanks all for the great advice. I had an informal chat with her (I made it into a fun 'quiz' as she likes quizzes) about how you express affection to family and non family. Then followed it up with advice as per threads. Bless her, she said 'uh oh but I kissed .....&......& they're not family. Whoops! And there's been no

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Kernow1973 · 14/06/2014 00:04

...sorry pressed wrong button....no inappropriate displays of affection since:)

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