I have 2 sons aged 4.5 and nearly 3. When they're apart, they're angels and are very polite, calm(ish) and well behaved. Together they're like ferrel animals.
The last few days have been particularly tough. They keep doing things we've specifically asked them to stop (throwing toys over the neighbours fence), fighting with each other, etc. And yesterday, the eldest ran away from me in a very busy park and I was unable to chase after him due to being pregnant and having SPD. He refused to stop running despite me shouting at him and when I eventually caught up with him I was so cross I (regrettably) smacked him - something which I try hard NOT to do (How can I teach my sons that smacking each other and other children is wrong if I do it to them!!) But I was so cross and so upset at his sheer lack of respect and refusing to do as I ask. He knows he shouldn't run off, but did it anyway and thought it funny. When I put my sons to bed last night I cried and cried at my sheer lack of patience and parenting skills and lashing out at him.
So, now I'm going to try a reward chart and see if that makes an improvement in their behaviour. At the moment, I'm thinking if they get a star in every category for that day (dress themselves, brush teeth without tantrums, eat all their meals, use their manners, behave well, do as mummy asks) and then issue a small reward at the end of every day (an extra story at bedtime, their favourite dessert after tea, etc).
And if they get a star in every box all week, they can choose an activity to do at the weekend or even pull a small "surprise" present out of a box. Something cheap (bottle of bubbles, etc). I think my boys would love the idea of a "reward box" and being able to dive in and pull a mystery, wrapped up present out. It's just thinking of things to put in that they'll enjoy and wont cost me a bomb.
Can anyone think of any other, suitable rewards that wont cost very much. My mind's a blank!!
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mandbaby · 02/06/2014 14:35
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