Whingey DC support thread?

[BeeInYourBonnet]

Anyone else got a whingey DC?
Not just a DC that can be known to whinge occasionally, but one who wakes up whinging and carries on ALL DAY LONG!

DS is 5 and is a champion whinger. He quite often wakes up in a whinge and you just know that's it for the day. Its soul destroying. A whole day of barely coherant sentences along the lines of: ' ohhhhh muuuuuumeeeee, I don't waaaaant to get dressssssssed, I'm nooooot doing my teeeeeeeth'

I really don't know what to do about it. Other people comment, its like a constant low level whine. Its hard to describe, but if you have a true whinger you'll know what I mean. He's a lovely little boy, very affectionate and friendly, but good grief, sometimes he goes DAYS without talking normally.

Has anyone got any advice on coping strategies other than ear plugs ?

[BeeInYourBonnet]

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[cravingcake]

I think i have one in the making. DS is 2.5yo and as you describe if he wakes up in a whingy mood i know thats it for the day. Bloody hard work when it starts at 5am!

So no advice, but i can sympathise. At least your DC can speak proper words, mine is still learning and so when he's in proper whinge-mode i cant understand what he wants or is trying to tell me.

I've got my fingers crossed mine is still due to teething bloody back molars taking an age to come through

[BeeInYourBonnet]

Hopefully it will just be a phase for your DS craving

[LastingLight]

What would happen if you tell him "Sorry ds I can't hear/understand you, please speak in a normal voice". Then ignore the whinging until he does.

[givemecaffeine21]

Maybe you should film him and show it to him, making a thing of how silly it sounds when he's using his whiny baby voice and not his big boy voice? If nothing else it might snap him out of it when you get the camera out! I've recently found the way to stop DS (11 months) throwing a wobbler is to take him to the mirror....the angry screams over day to day things quickly stop!

I've got pretty much no tolerance for whining, it drives me crackers. DD is a very bright 22 months and if I say 'stop whining' she does tend to, but if she doesn't, she has a couple of minutes on her own, basically time out. I usually do this when we've had a whole morning of it and post-nap she's no better, by the afternoon I start using time outs. It really does work and saves my sanity but she's been a champion whiner since the start so I had to do something!

[SingSongSlummy]

I also do the 'I can't understand when you speak in a whiney voice' thing and I don't engage with then until they've started speaking normally again. Usually knocks it on the head pretty quickly.

[BeeInYourBonnet]

DS doesn't react well to demands to stop using the whiney voice - it tends to make him worse!! I often tell him I can't understand him, but it has little effect. He seems to get in a whiney loop and nothing stops him.

I'll try to take a harder line again. I think the whining has broken my will IYSWIM . it's like a form of torture!!!!

[BeeInYourBonnet]

I like the idea of filming him actually - will give it a try.

[Lioninthesun]

I try to make DD laugh when she is like this. She loves a good tickle, so I try that first. Sometimes it makes her angry to start but she soon forgets what was wrong. I also explain often that I don't understand her winging and it therefore doesn't get her what she wants. She'd get what she wanted a whole lot quicker by asking sensibly.
She does seem to respond to this, so could be worth a shot if the filming doesn't?