My son has mild Brachycephaly(flat head). When he was born my mother would tell me to keep him off his head as much as possible, which I did. He had severe colic for 2 months and was not happy unless he was in a swing.
His head at birth was normal size but every appointment it was clear his head was getting large and his body was not growing as fast. His 4 month check up his head measured 95% and his weight and length was 25%.
He explained that the head flattening was more prone in larger headed babies and assured me it would fix itself. Well I knew from the beginning when people made comments that it was just not true. I held him all the time and played with him and loved on him.
I would flip him around in the bassinet at opposite ends and try to turn his head. It would either wake him up screaming or he would just flop it back. I was very attentive about trying to build his neck and back muscles and his head control was excellent even at 2 months. People always said "wow he can hold his head up already?" Yet even that did not fix the flattening.
I put head cushions in the swing from the get go to soften the back up. Even though I know I tried and gave 110% and even explained that that this is because his head is larger than normal. I still got comments on how it was caused by being left on his back for too long?!
It is insulting and inconsiderate even when I tell them why and explain. My mom even made a comment pointing out that I am the reason his head got large! Umm NO the doc. explained it was a genetic thing and it is just insane to blame his large head on some kind of neglect. Ohh I suppose his small body is neglect too not genetics! I look for comforting on here but I read so many threads on how it is the parents fault and they should have done this or that. I wanted to try again and see if I can get some real responses from people who understand. I would appreciate if people do not gloat in response. I am not opting for a helmet and the doc won't give me a referral anyways so please. I am not looking for ways to correct it as I am already doing everything I can. I just want some ideas on how to deal with these weird attitudes and looks and comments that are just ignorant. I would also love to hear about anyone who had a kid with Brachycephaly and what happened without the helmet or treatment? Thank you.
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How to deal with ridicule from ignorant people about my sons flat spot?
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Cast1ststone · 02/05/2014 18:58
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