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2nd dry night for ds 7.4. Is this it?!

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Whereisegg · 26/04/2014 10:48

Ds has had very few dry nights in his life, and even fewer of these have been in a row.

At 5 he had his HUGE (surgeon said biggest he'd seen) tonsils and adenoids removed due to sleep apnea.
Dr had mentioned that his brain was so concerned about keeping him breathing, it didn't care if he wee'd but that this would likely resolve itself after surgery.
It did, for 3 nights.

Fast forward a couple of years solid of brick-heavy pants every morning (and occasional wet beds too despite pants), we are on our second morning in a row of bone dry pants.

I don't want to be too outwardly excited at home in front of ds as he can't control it, so I want to be excited here please!

Could this be it, or just a lucky streak?

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BuzzardBird · 26/04/2014 10:54

Fingers crossed. Reward him heavily, it does help on some level. Good luck.

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FourAndDone · 26/04/2014 10:55

Nobody can say, but either way let him know how happy you are and give him a big love.Smile

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tametortie · 26/04/2014 10:58

Feel your pain- my DD is 11 and still has the odd wet night. It's so disheartening for them! Sad she also has issues with breathing in her sleep, she gasps loads and apparently it does really affect muscle control in the night if you aren't getting enough oxygen.

I agree with rewards and lots of praise. Only time will tell but I have my fingers crossed for you xxx

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Whereisegg · 26/04/2014 11:01

I will certainly be squeezing the lovely little drives me crazy most of time wants to live on easter eggs and in his pjs thing Grin

I so want it to be over, but for him, washing sheets more than normal has never been a hardship, his little face yesterday on his first dry morning was just delicious Smile Smile Smile

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Whereisegg · 27/04/2014 08:21

Wet pants this morning Sad

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Nishky · 27/04/2014 08:28

Two in a row is good, hang on to that x did he go to bed later because it was Saturday? Drink more? Is he off colour?

When dd went from every night to occasional wet nights it helped her confidence when we discovered reasons.

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Mogz · 27/04/2014 09:13

2 nights in a row is great, hopefully this wet one was a blip. Poor lad it must be rotten for him, I hope he manages another dry night soon.

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Whereisegg · 27/04/2014 09:48

To be fair, they weren't that full so...

He did have a bit of a later night yes, I have been really positive with him about the 2 dry nights and a little wee night because it is amazing for him!
Also reassured that nobody will be sad or cross because of something that happens when he is asleep.

I just so wanted it to be over for him Sad

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Mogz · 28/04/2014 20:43

How's he been doing?

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Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 20:57

Another only slightly wet pair of pants this morning.
Really still hoping it signifies something has 'woken up' in his brain.

He has also been doing great big just woken up wees, which is something he has never really had to do as he's bern emptying so much overnight.

Thanks for being interested in my ds's wee habits Wink Grin
It actually does mean a lot that a stranger would ask x

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306235388 · 28/04/2014 21:04

Ds is also 7.4 and has been mostly dry for about 3 or 4 months. It started as you describe then gradually built up, he occasionally wets the bed now but not often. We do all the usual of no blackcurrant, no big drinks after dinner, upping fluid intake in the day etc but ultimately it seems to have just been a maturity (physical and emotional) thing.

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Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 21:07

Oh that does give me hope!

I kind of thought that once the hormone kicked in, that would be it.
Now I think about it, it doesn't usually work like that when it kicks in at a more 'normal ' age does it, it's still a while before you stop considering that they may have an accident.

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BadgersNadgers · 28/04/2014 21:08

It's a good start, fingers crossed.

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BrianTheMole · 28/04/2014 21:10

Yes it is still a while I think. My dc had dry nights, then a phase of wet nights then dry, eventually they just all became dry. Its definitely heading in the right direction.

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Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 21:18

It's really hard to be casual when I enquire about his pants in the morning.
We have encouraged him to sort all aspects of them himself including putting them in the bin, but I could usually hear the thud as they hit the floor being removed as they were so heavy.

I may discreetly lift them up out of the bin in the mornings to check their weight instead of asking him.
I don't know if asking each day might make it too much of a thing?

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tametortie · 28/04/2014 21:35

I find that if I ask my dd too much, she gets a bit anxious and it's a bit of a vicious circle.

We are on our 5th dry night at the mo- I think physical maturity is the key. But she is 11 Hmm

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Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 21:38

Oh tame a big (but very secret) well done to your dd Smile

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Lemonsole · 28/04/2014 21:38

I'm subtly joining you here. My DS, 7.6, had never had a dry night until four nights ago. We're now four nights into a dry run, with which he and we are deliriously proud. Grin He started to get embarrassed about his pull ups in yr 2, and is desperate to be like everyone else. He is an unfeasibly heavy sleeper (like DH)

He had been using a wet stop alarm which, as far as we could see, had done bugger all for three weeks. The alarm woke us; we could hear it through two doors and over the TV, but DS did not stir and needed shaking to get up and go to the loo.

Then suddenly the first dry night. He remembers nothing, but the little puddle in the bathroom and the raised seat Grin told me he had been to the loo.

Anyone else had it like this?

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Lemonsole · 28/04/2014 21:40

He's v bashful about pull-up weigh ins in the morning, and now doesn't like it when the Waitrose delivery man hands them over, as it means people "know". Hmm

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Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 21:44

Oh lemon Sad

Ds went through an embarrassed patch, I usually go shopping alone but I took him to show him that they went up to age 15 and that seemed to reassure him.

You can read all the stats you like, but actually finding other mums has helped me so much Smile

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Lemonsole · 28/04/2014 21:50

We talk about it a lot, but he needs ever more reassurance about the normality of it all. Even when I recount true stories of my Cub Leader days when spare sleeping bags were always needed and used on camp. He's worrying about a Beaver sleepover: lots of strategic planning involving plastic bags in his wash bag, I think.

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Lemonsole · 28/04/2014 21:51

Yes, hearing other stories helps a lot.

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Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 21:53

Could the cub leader have his pants and your ds need to see them last thing at night and first thing in the morning for 'medicine'?

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Lemonsole · 28/04/2014 21:57

We've worked out that he can go into the disabled loo on his own with his wash bag. He was a bit grumpy at any suggestion that his Leaders should know, and he prefers to be in control. He knows that he's not the only one, but is still a little worried underneath that we're only saying it to make him feel better. A vile kid at school (who I know wasn't dry until 8...) gave him some grief. Dealt with / but the damage was done.

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Whereisegg · 28/04/2014 22:00

Angry Sad
We are SO lucky that ds's best friend was also late in pants, so on the couple of occasions he/we have stayed over (dp and I close to hos parents) it just hasn't been an issue.

Your poor ds though.
That terrifies me tbh.

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