Right. This may be long apologies in advance, but I want to get it all down.
I have one DS. He will be 4 in June. I do not have many children around me to compare, but he has always seemed to be a bit behind his peers. He was slow to sit, slow to stand, slow to walk etc.Very slow to talk (was not saying a single word at 2,but is a right chatterbox now). He just seems a solid 4-6 months 'behind' the children that I observe. i am not close to any other parents of children this age, so am going by what i see at pre-school etc.
He is not potty trained. It is only recently (last 6 months) I have stopped taking him everywhere in the buggy as he was quite a serious bolter. He would freak right out with reins so we had a buggy or very short walks.
For about 6 months we have being doing intensive walks with him, with him holding our hands. We do 'kerb drill' where we stop and look right and left. I basically thought he had it. But today, walking home in our quiet little lane, he suddenly shot off laughing and ran out between parked cars and into the road. He was completely oblivious. There were no cars around thank God, but I absolutely freaked. (not helped by a passerby yelling at me to control him). Is it normal for children at this age to STILL have no sense of danger or impulse control?
I was already at a low ebb today. he has also just started wailing 'xxxx. hit me' in any given scenario. So, the dog walked past him on the stairs; 'Fido hit me'. I changed his nappy; 'Mummy hit me' etc . Trust me, he has never been hit. I just have no idea if any of this is normal. He had a major freakout at church several months ago and one of the old dears said 'what on earth is wrong with that child? is he autistic' and i consulted a family member who happens to be a specialist and she says he is not, but it has all kind of planted a seed that he is not developing as he ought to be. The nursery have raised concerns about his speech (but he is catching up) and have said he does not play with other children (But he does at his childminders). I am just have no idea what the parameters of 'normal development' are, and am not sure who I turn to. DH works away and is home 1 weekend out of every two, and when I talked with him tonight he just said that I am the one home with him all the time (I work from home) so it is up to me to decide if there is something wrong and to go and find help.
Great things about him.
He has a wicked sense of humour and a sense of the ridiculous.
He is very empathetic and gets quite distressed if anyone else is upset.
He is as close to reading as makes no difference, and can count to 60 and recognise numbers up to 100.
Just no awareness of danger. I really thought he was over the bolting thing. Today's episode was quite awful.
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Is this normal? Should I be worried? is this a 'delay'?
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nochips · 25/03/2014 20:27
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