Sorry I know this is a bit long.
My dd (8) had a 'best friend' at school however they were always arguing and my dd was coming home upset from school on a very regular basis. A while ago dd's best friend started playing with another girl and they would run away from my dd when they saw her etc. This friend would also be mean to her, make fun of her if she could not do something, not be happy for her if she did something well etc.
I told my dd at the time that if her friend does not want to play with her and if she makes her unhappy to try and play with other friends more. But when my dd did this her 'best friend' would not like it and go around telling other children that my dd would not play with her. My dd says she has tried to talk to her friend and explain that if she keeps being mean to her she doesn't want to be best friends anymore. But her friend keeps being mean and my dd kept forgiving her. Last week my dd finally felt she had enough and said to her friend 'I want to play with other people, you can go and play with other people too'.
Anyway last week dd's friend's mum came up to me and said she wanted to speak to me about my dd. She said my dd had told her dd to go and find another firend. The mum said; you don't say that, do you? She said her dd had been upset and she said she (the mum) could not sleep. I know there are 2 sides to every story but I also know that my dd generally gets on well with her friends and in school the teachers' compliment her on her examplary behaviour. I just feel now that my dd has been upset so many times by this friend and I have not made an issue but just encouraged my dd to play with others and now when my dd finally is sticking up for herself her friend's mum is putting all the blame on my dd not considering previous events that have upset my dd.
My dd has also become good friends with a new girl in the class and probably mum of dd 'best friend' thinks my dd just started playing with others and not wanting to be friends with her dd for no reason.
But it was not for no reason.
DD so called best friend and her mum are telling other friends and mums that my dd is not playing with her dd anymore etc......
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ElinElin · 17/03/2014 13:54
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