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3 year old and nursery behaviour

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Newname14 Sun 16-Mar-14 19:06:10

My just 3 year old started nursery at 15 months

He can speak really well for his age is very imaginative and is very loving and cuddly sometimes bordering on clingy

He is also very headstrong he has constant tantrums (everyday starts with a tantrum about not getting dressed, not getting in the car etc., and ends with one about getting in the bath , getting in to bed etc.... ) I've tried giving him options or being more strict about it but same to the same outcome of tantruming

He is always on the go trying to get in trouble , run away etc.. Is a nightmare to take on public as he just won't do what he's told but switches off about 7.30 till 7 am so don't think sleeps an issue

Is also a terribly fussy eater. He plays reasonably we'll with his older brother who is
patient with him

Last fri the nursery approached my dp out the blue and said they want to put him on a behavioural chart because he keeps snatching from other kids and hitting and kicking them especially when they are in groups playing they want to have him in this chart and monitor him and take him out of the room if he does it so it's just him and an adult

I'm worried about this and am worried they are going to say they can't cope and ask him to leave (it's a private nursery) I'm thinking maybe I should leave work as he needs more time at home maybe he just doesn't cope at nursery?

Anyone been through this or any thoughts?

i don't know where he's learnt the hitting and an really embarrassed he's doing thissad

TwittyMcTwitterson Sun 16-Mar-14 19:55:13

Did he hit before nursery? How much was he around peers before nursery?

I'm of the opinion that nursery will get him out of this behaviour because he has no choice but to conform. If you give up work, it could lead to you facilitating some of his actions and he will be at school before the blink of an eye so you may as well get him used to all of this now smile

Newname14 Sun 16-Mar-14 19:58:45

No he didn't do it before but he's been there since 15 months so 1 year 9 months so plenty of time to get used to peers

TwittyMcTwitterson Sun 16-Mar-14 20:08:36

Sorry I skimmed that bit and assumed 15 hours and was just starting the free stuff hmm sorry

Has anything happened recently to unsettle?

Littlefish Sun 16-Mar-14 20:16:56

I think it's good that the nursery are being pro-active and are placing very firm consequences in place for him hitting or snatching.

At 3, many children start to play more with each other, rather than alongside each other. However, this can lead to disagreements over toys or the direction of games when playing in groups.

It sounds like the nursery have noticed that he is struggling a little with this stage. I would talk to them about what they are doing to help him develop his social skills ie. modelling appropriate behaviour, as well as removing him from the situation when things get too much for him.

Actually, thinking about it, it would be good if they removed him before he got too stressed/angry whenever possible.

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