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GruffaloShoes Fri 14-Mar-14 20:09:57

Ive posted a couple of times in Potty Training but was hoping that the users in this topic might have some different advice. I don't know how to link on my phone but the post below is a copy of my most recent one....

Thank you to all the kind people who posted on my thread a couple of days ago. I don't have any real life support for this...

Trying to ignore dd's more and more frantic bouncing and jiggling that indicate she needs the toilet (but will NOT either just go or at least tell me) has proved incredibly difficult. I just can't let her pee herself in public places (had a hospital visit in there too) when I KNOW she needs the toilet.

So today I thought I would try to make it a bit easier and put her in pull ups. She threw a massive fit as she loves her knickers so I explained that in order to wear her knickers she MUST go to the toilet. She agreed. Later she was playing in her bedroom and rather than walk 4 m to go to the toilet she peed all over her bed/bedding and clothes.

The red mist descended, I chucked a pull up in her direction and told her to get dressed. I sent her to her play room downstairs and slammed the door after her .

I just don't know what to do. She gets loads of attention, gets lots of praise and generally knows she is much loved. But right now I don't want to look at her defiant little face. She knows exactly what she is doing . But why? And I haven't got a clue where to go from here.

In addition to this we are getting a lot of irritating and attention seeking behaviour. If we pay attention to her little brother as soon as the focus is away from her she starts screeching etc. In public she is always trying to get the attention of other people by making silly noises. If I'm out with her and speaking to, say, receptionist or bank teller she tries to get the attention focused on her... Is all this maybe linked? I might actually post this in Behaviour too... She also gets quite a lot of one to one attention too.

I feel like a total failure here .

If anyone has any further questions please feel free to ask . I'm basically at my wits end and would appreciate any advice. thanks

It would likely be helpful to know that dd is almost 4 years old.

lollipoppi Fri 14-Mar-14 20:21:31

How old is your baby?

When my DD was born, ds1 went from being totally dry, to wetting within a week.
I'm sorry to say it did last for a little while

I just had to ride it out, it is frustrating I know but stick with the praise for when she does go.

I also think that by wetting, they get attention, albeit negative attention, but attention non the less
My advise would be to ignore the wetting, make her get new clothes and dress herself and act as if nothing has happened, she will soon figure out that the only attention she will get is when she goes to the toilet

Good luck

GruffaloShoes Fri 14-Mar-14 20:23:52

Her little brother is 20 months old. To be honest she has NEVER went to the toilet without telling/reminding.

odyssey2001 Fri 14-Mar-14 20:28:40

Have you tried letting her wear her knickers under her pull ups. This MUST be a short term measure and she will need to be checked regularly to avoid nappy rash. Hopefully it will help her understand this is a feeling she doesn't like that she would like to avoid. Also move a potty into the room she is in. That worked a treat for us.

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