OK, DD is 5, has little sister who is 2. She has always been messy, likes textures etc, but now she is 5 she seems unable to process basic rules for herself. So, today she came home from school, read a book (fine), gave her a sandwich. First of all bits of the sandwich get thrown on the floor and I have to ask her to pick them up. If I ask her where they belong, she will say "the bin". Then she spits partly eaten sandwich on the floor. Again, she knows this is wrong. And on and on it goes. I'd expect this from the two year old, but not from a 5yo. Repeatedly doing things where she knows what the rule is and how to follow it. Sanctions are loss of smiley faces on her chart. Lose three, no tv for the day. If she loses more than 5 over the course of the week, weekend treat cancelled (visit to park, friend to play etc).
I just do not know why she just continues on when she knows not to do the thing in question. We've been at this for years now. It's as if she doesn't realise that the rule applies to her own actions. Some of it is attention seeking, but I can't just ignore this kind of stuff, can I?
She is a lovely girl, kind (mostly) to her sister, doing fine at school - probably a bit immature socially, but my house is a war zone, because DD doesn't seem able to remember that things belong in different categories, or that things need to be put away in specific places. She has no developmental issues that we are aware of, and certainly school sees her as 'messy' and not brilliant at managing herself and her stuff, but nothing more serious than that.
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5yo who often behaves like 3yo - don't know how to proceed
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rhetorician · 07/03/2014 15:08
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