How would you deal with this?

[littleraysofsunshine]

21month old keeps doing this thing whenever she gets frustrated. (When I say no to something, or when she goes in her car seat, or when dropping dd1 off at nursery every morning because she wants to stay too)

Hysterically blowing snot out of her nose, no matter how I try to smoothly talk and calm her and wipe her nose, she carries on pushing it out. When I'm driving, so it's everywhere.

Please help!

Also

She has a new baby brother who she does not leave alone. When he's on the floor in the bouncer etc. I end up snapping and keep removing her. She's loving but too loving bless her. I had this when she was a baby with dd1 but not half as bad.

I feel terrible keeping telling her off and dd1 sometimes who is three. I want them to know he's not going anywhere and it's normal for him to be around. Not novelty. He is only four weeks old though. So in time I guess. But what else can I do to stop snapping at her...

Can you tell I haven't had much sleep??? Lol

[littleraysofsunshine]

??

[TamerB]

It is the same as the other thread about tantrums. Ignore and clean up afterwards.
You just have to avoid leaving her alone with the baby and calmly remove when she gets too much.
She is very much a baby herself and as the middle child, doesn't get the perks of being the eldest or the youngest.
As time goes on you need to do things with her on her own sometimes- the same with your DP or grandparents. ( the same with the others as they are so close in age). It is easy to treat them as a gang so a good idea to separate sometimes, e.g grandparents have just one to stay.

[baskingseals]

Agree with Tamer.
Keep calm, she's very little. Look after yourself as much as you can, you will come through the other side of these years.
Congratulations on your baby.

[littleraysofsunshine]

I don't think I've helped matters with dd1 starting preschool in jan. Three kids out the house and at the school by 8:30. The past few weeks have been tough. Emotionally. Especially with a newborn, teething toddler and all of us having poor quality sleep.

This morning was a bad case of snot blowing!

[littleraysofsunshine]

And with tiredness I have zero patience then I feel guilty. I feel guilty loads at the min. All they must see is a moody mum. I have hardly any time to play with them or one on one time. ;(

[littleraysofsunshine]

I just don't want to keep moaning. I want to get back to enjoying them!

[TamerB]

It will come-don't be so hard on yourself. It is hard physical work-not much time left over for anything else!