I'm not sure whether I should be worried or not and hoped someone may have gone through something similar and maybe able to offer some advice.
Background is I have two boys - a 5 year old E and A who is 4. (Also have a dd who is 18 mths but everything ok as can be there ) Both are Autumn born. A is taller then his older brother. So it's possible we compare him too much to his older brother. He's also very competitive with his brother and always wants to be first - first upstairs, first to brush his teeth etc. I try and limit this and explain he can't always be first.
As you can probably guess A is who I get really stressed over :/
There are two main issues. He talks really loud no matter how much I or my OH explain to him to speak quietly he doesn't. His speech is slightly unclear but his range of speech and vocabulary is the same if not advanced as his 5 year old brother- A. If I speak quietly or look the other way and call him quietly he responds. So could his hearing still be affected? School don't seem too concerned although I am toying with whether I should get his hearing checked.
Second issue is. He never listens! He will always without fail still do what he wants. It doesn't matter how many times it is explained to him what someone wants him to do/ not do. I can get him to repeat the instruction and he will still do the opposite. As a result he does tend to get told off a lot:/.
Normally it doesn't matter but for instance yesterday my OH took them swimming. The 4 year old wasn't confident in the water so my husband stood him in the corner of the teaching pool and told him to wait and hold on to the bars while he sorted out the 5 year old. E is confident in water(although can't swim) so he was walking across the pool, OH heard a splash and A is in the water trying to stand up ( he was trying to copy his brother). Thankfully he was fine as dad was with him. But it scares me that one day he is going to get hurt because he doesn't listen.
Does anyone have any advice to how to deal with this? Does it sound like there is something to be looked into or is this normal behaviour for a just recently turned 4 year old?
Many thanks in advance
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