grateful to hear any experiences or advice that people have.
My two ds are now aged 7 and 9 and have always sucked their thumbs. I then had a dd (now 3) to whom we firmly gave a dummy, since I figured I could at least take that away one day...
When ds2 was about 18mths, some annoying dentist or other gave me a ticking off saying he needed to stop sucking his thumb (cue dh practically dragging me out of the dentist's office as I launched into several minutes worth of "do you have children? Exactly how am I supposed to stop a 1 year old sucking his thumb?" etc)
So ever since then, (ds1 must have been at pre-school at the time, age 3) we've been badgering ds1 to stop sucking his thumb. When ds2 got to about 4, we did the same with him. We had short periods of applying nail-yuck (that's the offical name, I believe) to put them off, but we didn't do it for long enough and a few months later we realised they were sucking their thumbs at night and just trying to hide it from us. In the last year there was more and more thumb-sucking and it felt like we were constantly nagging, ticking off, making empty threats and just giving them a hard time about something they were finding comforting, for no gain at all. So maybe about 3-4 months ago, we just gave up and stopped giving them a hard time.
I feel now that we did it totally, totally wrong. If I had my time again, I would never badger them at all, and just wait for them to get older and give up. I feel that by making it verboten for so many years, it's become more essential for them to do it. But what do I do now? Dh hates them sucking their thumb. I don't really mind it, but I really, really don't want them to reach adulthood and still be doing it, and I currently don't feel sure they'll actually give up of their own accord.
Dh was chief badgerer back when we were nagging them, and greatly to his credit, he agreed to stop ticking them off for it and has been brilliant about it for at least 3 months. He's starting to point out (not in front of them) that this doesn't seem to have done any good, and they are sucking their thumbs more than ever now.
Does anyone have any suggestions? Do we have any control here? Or do you think if we wait and wait they'll eventually just stop?
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thumb-sucking - when and how to stop?
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wehopeyoulikespaghetti · 03/02/2014 21:47
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