My 19mo DS, screaming, crying, angry so much! What to do? :-/

[mammainlove]

I actually don't recall DD1 ever scream or even cry in public,until she hit the terrible twos, and even then, nothing like DS2! I would consider myself, and DP very calm parents. We believe in not shouting,& dealing with situations calmly, apart from now&again of course. He is extremely sensitive,&if he doesn't get exactly what he wants, he goes crazy,&he's SO LOUD. When he's like this, he doesn't want to be touched, calmed down in any way,this makes him worse. So we just wait patiently until he's over it. I never give in to him either as I don't want him to think he can get his own way being like this..

I'm weaning him at the moment, down to 3 feeds a day. I am aware he is frustrated with this, but I don't think his ongoing anger is down to just this, as he forgets most of the time. I don't know what else I can do to help him, he is just not learning that he simply can't have everything he wants. His outbursts are affecting all of us! Gives us headaches, it makes me very down, stressed out a lot. I burst into tears at DD's nursery today. It upsets her too..

Any advice, understanding, please? X

[AwfulMaureen]

How is his language development? Is he trying to make himself understood?

[mammainlove]

Good question. He is trying to talk, has his own language. He can say a few words and loads of progression recently. His sister teaches him often:)

[TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals]

Ds is the same age and can be hard work. I'm putting it down to language frustration. Teeth also make him grumpy but we're nearly there!!

[AwfulMaureen]

I do think this causes irritation in many toddlers OP...once his language improves he'll be less angry I'm sure. Coming up to 2 years, he should start sticking two or more words together...then he can ask for stuff!

[mammainlove]

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[mammainlove]

I hope so..Thanks for encouragement.x

[Inlovewith2014]

Going through the same and ds is banging his head when angry it's soo upsetting he is 20 months now and his speach is still very limited so using some baby signs, which is picking up quickly, but still can't calm him for ages
Did sign from 6 months with dd and trantrums where much easier

[Inlovewith2014]

Going through the same and ds is banging his head when angry it's soo upsetting he is 20 months now and his speach is still very limited so using some baby signs, which is picking up quickly, but still can't calm him for ages
Did sign from 6 months with dd and trantrums where much easier

[BlueC2]

Similar here! DS (only child so far...though I am 17 weeks pregnant with DC2) is now 20mo and in the last few days has suddenly got SO determined about certain things and totally loses it if he can't have his way. We don't give in to him either but it is so draining for both DH and me! We have tried the whole spectrum of responses from quiet, calm to very cross and it seems to make no difference. DS is desperate to talk and seems to be getting new words each week but still so frustrated that he can't communicate what he wants to us fully. It must be so hard for him...but also hard for us too! He also has sore teeth (last back molars on the move) which probably isn't helping! I'm currently an hour and a half into latest battle which is over nap time...he wants to sit on the chair with all his teddies and 'read' them a book and I have said he needs to be in bed...oh the battle!