Evening all, here with my but wish it was
I have a 6 month old son who is on the whole a happy boy, he isnt clingy but likes to have me in seeing distance at all times.
The bed times in my house have become a bit tricky, we have a bath when he starts to become dispondent at around 5:00 (hes not a big napper, daylight savings have knocked him about and he likes to rise at 5am so he likes to start his bedtime routine early) and then we have a book and a cuddle, bit of a light massage not too much stimulus, dim lighting ect.... he is BF so i fell into the trap of feeding him to sleep or my partner (if he was home which is rare) would rock him to sleep but now neither of these things work.
My partner feels that when i stay in the room with him when he is crying it agitates him more because if i go in but dont pick him up he gets upset and when i walk out of the room the crying becomes more intense, i have tried sitting with him until he falls asleep but he just looks at me and wont settle, the only way he settles eventually is if we leave him to cry :(
i guess my question is If i keep going to check him, telling him he is ok but its time for bed and that i cant pick him up does he have the capacity to learn that he is not being abandoned but that during bedtime hours i wont pick him up? or does he just feel like i have left him alone?
I know its silly but all i can hear is Peaches Geldof telling me im a bad mother and my child will become a monster if i leave him to cry it out, my life is devoted to my son and i love him so much, i just wish there was another way to deal with this that wasnt so horrible for us both. Has anyone else experienced this?
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Difficult bedtime, Cry it out guilt :(
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igirisu · 29/11/2013 19:21
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