Hi ladies,
I'm a single mum to my 8yo boy and I'm finding it very difficult to manage his behaviour lately.
I'd say it's been going on for nearly the past year, but has slowly progressed from mild cheekiness and being flippant to full-blown arrogance over the past few months...he says things to me that I would never have dreamed of saying to my mother.
For instance, this morning on the way to school I say in general chit-chat 'oh what a miserable day' (referring to the weather) he retorts, completely deadpan, 'no that's just you. The day isn't miserable, you are'
I said 'that's unkind and that hurts my feelings', he says NOTHING. After a few minutes I say 'do you have nothing to say' and he mutters a sorry half heatedly. I told him it means nothing if I have to ask for it and that he's hurt my feelings. He continues to say nothing until I drop him at school and kiss him goodbye.
I feel like everything is a battle, at home if I tell him to stop doing something (and I do give 5-10 minute warnings before doing so...eg. '10 mins til bath time'...'5 mins left on the iPad' etc) I will get a high-pitched panicked shouting terror yelling at me until normally I have to forcibly remove him or start counting to 3 loudly to get him moving.
I've taken away privileges, stopped him using iPads and the laptop (which he only gets for a certain time each day anyway), sent him to his room, tried having calm conversations with him after the event, tried giving extra cuddles, tried giving him praise when he's doing things right etc...I'm at a loss what to do next.
He is at home after school with me a fair amount, he does an after school club once a week and a boys youth club once a week and goes to his dads every other weekend...on dry days we go to the park after school or visit family, and he has playmates over fortnightly or so...I guess he might be bored although he loves playing Minecraft on the laptop but that's something I've banned for the week due to his behaviour.
I'm just at a loss of what to do now, please help
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8 year old son rude and disrespectful
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AlwaysTomoro · 21/10/2013 09:49
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