At 2.5 my son witnessed DV in the home. We moved away and I have received support. I have moved on and am in a stable and committed new relationship. Children have settled well at pre school and nursery.
My son has what can only be described as a violent temper. He (not unlike his father actually) is prone to outbursts that are very intense. The way he speaks "GET THIS FOR ME NOW!!" hitting out and screaming (quite literally). For hours, particularly when imposing boundaries. Not listening at all. Dropping to the floor and screaming every ten to thirty minutes and wailing if a request (eg ice cream for breakfast) is denied. Unrelenting anger.
I am walking on eggshells waiting for the next outburst. I am ground down and exhausted. DP is supportive, but perhaps lacks understanding.
I think in part this is down to what he witnessed as a toddler. I know he remembers from comments made previously. I need help. He needs help. I think I have to give in and accept that needs to be professional. Before he grows up unable to control himself. I clearly lack the parenting skills to show him how to manage his feelings, in fact, the vast majority of his anger is directed exclusively at me.
I have so much going on, I work around 60 hrs a week (3 month contract), juggle three childcare providers, two jobs, am pregnant , oh and my parents are getting divorced and am moving house. All huge potential flash points for my son who hates any change in routine (even driving a different route triggers him off).
I should have prioritised his behaviour long before now, but weak though it sounds have been too busy. Now it is causing problems with DP and I, I particular temper and resistance to going to bed. We are very worried how he will respond to his new sister who is due in march. What if he tries to hurt the baby?
Lots of issues, need help. Structured and professional. Can go private if need be. Where to start? Please? Am desperate. Got to go on school run now, will check back this morning. TIA
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FitzgeraldProtagonist · 17/10/2013 08:46
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