DD is normally a well-behaved if somewhat eccentric 3.5yo (IME most 3yos are, but there we are). Her key carer at nursery is about to move on and she now has a new carer, who is raising 'concerns about DD's behaviour which really need to be addressed at home'.
She seemed extremely concerned about DD's 'bad behaviour', to the extent that I was quite shocked that DD could be such a different person at home - or worse, that I could be spoiling DD to such an extent that I couldn't recognise bad behaviour when I saw it. When I asked for specifics, she said the main problem was DD 'making up stories about what she's done at the weekend'. Apparently DD was telling her class about how she broke her arm when she fell of her bike (she doesn't have one), had to wait in hospital for an X-ray, and eventually had to wear a cast which she would bring in for next week's Show and Tell. Needless to say, none of this had happened and I think it's the result of a book she and I read that weekend.
Normally I would shrug this off as fairly standard 3yo behaviour, and although she's done it for a while, her previous carer has never seen it as a concern and I've not paid it a great deal of attention either way ('oh, did you go to Mars today? That must have been interesting.. did you do any painting while you were there then?'). But the fact her new carer seems so concerned seems odd, and if she's asking me to 'address it' at home I'm really not sure what- if anything - I ought to do.
Is this normal, or should I be imposing consequences? A star for every time she tells a 'true story'? Very confused..
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Is this really a concern, and if so, how to 'work on it'?
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vladthedisorganised · 14/10/2013 16:00
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