My lovely little boy is nearly 3 and a half. He has been struggling with his talking so finally, after months and months of asking, I had an appointment today with the speech and language therapist.
What she said has absolutely broken my heart
He has serious issues acquiring language, he is struggling to cope with simple commands. She was playing with him but assessing him and within 40 minutes he was rubbing his little eyes because he was trying so so hard to get things right but said things like 'blocksing' instead of building and 'juciening' when she showed him someone pouring juice.
When we left i just broke down, she said that he needs really simple language and that we have been over complicating things which is why he can't pick things up, that he needs extra classes and sessions. I've been working loads over the summer, to pay for our fire place to be fixed and to try and support us. Now i have taken on uni and trying to work as wel. My little boy is suffering, i've not spent enough time with him and now he cannot even learn to talk :(
I am so so upset.
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filee777 · 10/10/2013 15:09
My son had a speech delay and was assessed at around the same age. His words weren't clear at all and he was way behind his peers. The SLT seemed most concerned about the range of sounds he could produce and on that measure he was within the normal range.
Both me & DH are kind of wordy but it was never suggested this was a cause of his speech delay. I think it was unhelpful of her to make you feel so guilty.
FWIW the range of development at this age is huge. I was told they only consider it a real issue if they're still having problems when they start school. The classes are a good idea if you want to do something proactive to help your DS but only if you both find it fun and supportive.
My 'delayed' DS is now 6, reads well above his age and I can't shut him up 
Don't feel guilty, just keep talking & playing & having fun!
Eh Uri? How on earth is she responsible for his language issues? How exactly and on what planet?
OP - I have no idea what you could possibly, possibly have been doing to contribute to his problems but honestly unless you were shutting him in a room without company for hours on end I don't think you have done anything to feel bad about.
I don't talk much to mine, I never have, I am rubbish at playing with them too and they are just lucky not to have had too many issues with speech or language or really, any other random aspect of development.
It IS totally random afaik.
I know loads of really brilliant parents with children who have speech issues. It isn't their fault either xxxxx
Oh fwiw ds1 talks excessively well
ds2 has a word-final dysfluency (basically an end of word stutter, no one has heard of it, I diagnosed by googling) at the age of 6, and is VERY long winded!
and ds3 only says 'gah'. But he is a baby so hopefully that will improve
You're a great parent because you care. And he sounds like a little love 
Hello filee. Just to echo the other posters - he'll get there, and he'll talk so much you'll wish he would put a sock in it for a bit .
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Hey, Uri!!! Don't talk bollocks 
. Op, it was my middle child who had the speech delay, we parented him exactly the same as his two siblings.
He had quite a lot of speech therapy, but had absolutely caught up with his peers well before 5. Now, at 9, you really couldn't tell there had ever been a problem.
Work with the SALT, and stop obsessing over what you could have done differently. Very likely there was absolutely nothing you could have done.
Good luck
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